Talk:Seddie/@comment-24341760-20140721150327/@comment-14284535-20140721185120

You are correct - the message sent by the show is terrible, because it says that - unless you are a popular kid (Carly) - boys and girls have to change who they are to date someone (Sam for Freddie, Freddie for Carly).

I think DS was trying to make Sam "tough on the inside" - she can still clean somebody's clock if need be, but she feels less of a need to. She also probably figures that to "become more normal" means she needs to be more like the girls Freddie has liked over the years. Also, Jennette clearly was getting out of her own tomboy phase, so making Sam go in that direction makes sense.

Also, it seems natural that Sam is going to be against picking on the nerds because she's in love with one and probably sees a bit of Freddie in each of them. In iLost My Mind, I actually would have had Sam regret how she picked on Freddie in because she wants him to see her as GF material. She would have checked herself into Troubled Waters because she thinks it's insane for her to have feelings for Freddie and even more insane to expect him to reciprocate her feelings because of his crush on Carly and her treatment of him. Thus, when they get together at the end, he would tell her that he loves her anyway and is OK with it because that made her what she was then.

If DS were a better writer than I think he is, I would have given him credit for having Sam becoming more downbeat as the series went on as she saw Freddie and Carly spinning closer to each other. Here she was, trying to be more normal, while he fell back to his creepy crush on Carly.