Talk:Seddie/@comment-24856071-20140225215918/@comment-14284535-20140301203518

As an FYI: I could not empathise with Freddie holding on to the girl of his dreams. I did that (and she even asked me out and broke up with me and then asked me out again and...). At some point, that marks you as mentally ill (as my therapists called it) and a loser (as I call it).

As you might have guessed, I would have hated a Seddie ending as much as I HATED the Creddie ending. (Aside: I would have hated a Seddie ending for largely the reasons that Creddiers give.)  It rewards Freddie's stalking (who on Earth waits for their crush by staring out its peep hole?); it rewards Carly for manipulating him ("Please, for me."); it rewards Carly for taking him for granted; it implies that you should not move on from an unrequited crush; I question the depth of Carly's feelings for Freddie when the only time she develops feelings for him is when she could be separated from him (iSYL and iGB); it made it possible for Creddiers to interpret Freddie dating Sam as merely marking time and that his "I love you" wasn't truly love; it re-enforces the cultural stupidity of "meant to be."

I have friends and family around the country whose kids have told me that the change in behaviour in their classmates reflects these attitudes and buttresses The Narcissism Epidemic (Jean M. Twenge and W. Keith Campbell [Atria Books, 2010]). If it had been me, I would have had Freddie going to his senior prom with someone like Valerie, which would force Sam and Carly to move on.