User blog comment:FallinqForYouhx3/Why Freddie loves Sam/@comment-4184884-20110924132121

This so much! Wonderful post.

As far as Freddie being Sam's victim, I've always held the same stance as you. If he truly viewed himself as a victim as some people like to believe, do you really think he would have hung around? Do you really think he would have antagonized her back...or even, on occasion, antagonized her of his own accord, without Sam even doing anything to him? That moment in iGiveaway a car comes to mind, where he keeps antagonizing Sam, saying stuff like, "Hey, isn't your uncle buzz on parole" and then they start bickering and Carly has to shut them up. Do the people who view Freddie as a victim really think so little of Freddie as a character that they don't think he'd have the common sense or the backbone to stand up and distance himself from Sam if he really had viewed himself as her victim? What about all the times he actually fought back physically (which are the moments that I think some people conveniently forget). There's the slap in in iCook and the WRESTLING ON THE GROUND with her in iSpace Out, just to name a few. (I mean, he is wrestling on the ground with the girl. Oh yeah, that just screams victimized weak little boy to me.) That isn't the behavior of a victim. That's the behavior of a boy playing a reciprocated and unspoken game. Freddie isn't a victim and when people call him that I can't help but roll my eyes. Freddie doesn't take it seriously, why do you?

And yes, I agree that Freddie likes the very things about Sam that a lot of people thinks he hates or thinks he should hate about her. Freddie loves Sam because of, not in spite of, her flaws, which I think makes their relationship that much more meaningful. Yes, she's abrasive, she's aggressive, she's impulsive, and she crosses all sorts of lines she shouldn't (though she should be given credit for the fact that often times when she REALLY crosses the line, ala the whole iKiss incident and the N.E.R.D camp application, she tries to rectify things and clearly feels bad. But Freddie's learned to accept that about her...and not just accept it, but revel in it. Like you said, how many times has Freddie been amused by that sort of aggressive and impulsive behavior a la: "I want to watch Sam beat up TV writers." Sam has a lot of character flaws, rather extreme ones you could argue in comparison to Carly or Freddie, but Freddie doesn't hate her for it or even so much as dislike her for it like so many people do and think he should. He loves her because of it.

The deserving comment drives me up the wall. Love is not a matter of "deserving". Love is about how you feel. There's always that argument of, "But Freddie deserves Carly." Well, sure he's a nice guy and she's a nice girl and he used to have a huge unrequited crush on her, so yeah he is worthy of her. But that doesn't change the fact that she doesn't love him and never has. That's what love is about. How you feel. And Carly's made her feelings clear for a very long time now: She doesn't love him. I don't know about you, but I think if Freddie "deserves" anything, he "deserves" a girl who loves him and is head over heels for him. That person: A Miss Samantha Puckett.

And I saw a quote the other day that I think basically sums up Sam & Freddie's relationship:

"Sometimes the greatest relationships are the ones you never expected to be in. The ones that sweep you off your feet and challenge every view you've ever had."

That is Sam & Freddie. Opposites in so many ways. Bickering since day one. They literally spent 6 years making their relationship into a "game". They have their ups & downs and even as a couple they have their moments where they clash. But they challenge one another and that's a good thing. It's part of what makes the relationship so great.