Talk:IDate Sam & Freddie/@comment-3553784-20110606212953/@comment-3419317-20110607042540

About two weeks ago, there was a discussion on this page about Carly's behavior in iThink They Kissed and iOMG, with some rather harsh (I thought) remarks about how she needs to stay out of everybody's business. It seems that the subject has come up again.

At the time, my sister (Lady Magique) spoke up in defense of Carly, and I really don't think I could do any better than to just quote what she had to say.

Posted by Lady Magique :

I wouldn't go so far as to say it wasn't Carly's business at all.

In iThink They Kissed, the kiss itself wasn't really the issue. Carly, Sam, and Freddie had become close enough friends that they told each other everything that was going on in their lives. Carly was hurt because Sam and Freddie had shared something important (their first kiss) and kept it a secret from her.

It was a trust issue, really.

Carly had to wonder, if Sam and Freddie could keep a huge secret like this from her, then what else might they keep a secret from her? What else might they already be keeping from her?

If they weren't such close friends, it would have been different. As it was, however, that level of trust isn't something that you can just shrug off.

As for iOMG ... As I see it, Carly did what she did because she cared about Sam, not out of a need to get into Sam's personal business. Carly genuinely believed that Sam liked Brad, a really nice guy, and Carly didn't want Sam to miss out on what could have been a great relationship because she was too scared to admit her feelings.

My sister has often said, "A true friend will tell you to go to **** when they think you need to hear it."

In iSaved Your Life, Sam knew that Carly and Freddie's relationship wouldn't last no matter what she did, and she could have stayed out of it. But she chose to take action because she knew that the sooner the relationship ended, the better off Carly and Freddie would be. She did it because she cared about them.

Carly and Sam get into each other's business because they care about each other. That's what friends do.