Thread:3cooldog92/@comment-3508470-20120716180713/@comment-3247345-20120717051628

Good idea to avoid shipping. It makes life a lot less stressful. I did some basic research on Folive since I had no idea what it is. Talk about similarity to Seddie. It even has that Creddie like crush. Here's what I'll do. I'll start telling you what how great it is to not care how great it is not to care about shipping. Maybe that will give you an incentive to avoid shipping. Then I'll tell you how I got into Seddie so you'll know what you shouldn't do. Then I'll tell you what I did with Victorious to avoid shipping.I'll end by asking some questions so I can address your specific atraction to Folive.

It's well known enough how I felt about iLY so I won't repeat how devestated I was here. 2 weeks later the Victorious episode "Jade Gets Crushed" premiered. I don't know how familar you are with the show, so sorry if I repeat anything you already know. The episode had Andre thinking he was in love with Jade. At the time Beck and Jade were dating and they had been since the begining of the series. Obviously this excited the Jandre shippers and freaked out the Bade shippers. In the end Andre got over Jade and Bade was never in any real danger. Turns out Dan trolled the Jandre shippers big time and got the Bade shippers freaking out over nothing. Here's the important part: As Andre sang his song at the end, I realized how I'd be happy no matter how the shipping situation turned out. Given how devastated I was by the Seddie breakup, it was pretty liberating not to care either way. It also make me question whether it was a good idea to be so obsessed with Seddie, leading me to write this blog:

http://icarly.wikia.com/wiki/User_blog:3cooldog92/Are_we_in_too_deep%3F

That should give you an idea of what I was thinking. I eventually concluded that it was a good idea and thus I stayed in the fandom. Whether staying was a good idea or not will be determined in November. But that's when I decided to avoid shipping in the future. So it's a lot easier to stay away from shipping.

Here's how I got into Seddie. Had I not done this stuff I wouldn't be into Seddie. It all started in late 2010 when I got into the show. I was browsing this wiki and I found the Seddie fanfiction page. Seddie seemed so interesting and unorthadox. Plus I was seriously wondering how anyone could think Sam and Freddie would get together. So I read the fanfics. I stayed up until 1 AM some night reading Seddie fanfics. That's what got me interested. By the time iOMG rolled around I was a Seddie shipper but not harcore. I was excited when Sam kissed Freddie. That led me to read a ton of stuff on the Seddie forum abou Sam's character. That's what convinced me that Seddie HAD to happen. It made me realize that Sam deserves to be happy and if Seddie makes her happy then I ship Seddie. In short I became attached to Sam's character.  I read stuff on this wiki throughout the summer of 2011 and read the comments about the arc from time to time. The breakup is when I became very active. I needed to vent to fellow shippers.

A few things can be learned from this. First of all avoid fanfiction. Had I done that I wouldn't be so obsessed with Seddie. Second avoid forums where they do extensive character analyisis. You'll get attached to the characters if you read character analysis.

With Victorious I stayed out of the fandom all together until about a month ago. That obviously helped. But when you're on the wiki you want to keep it objective. For me I can make objective assesments about shipping without actually shipping something in the end. You'll have to figure out for yourself if you can do that or if you'll have to avoid the shipping comments all together.I only respond to comments about humor or asking questions about how likely a ship is to happen. I also answere questions about Dan's intentions. I don't respond to comments about how cute ship X is or how character Y deserves to be with character Z. This is especially important with Bade. Turns out some Bade shippers feel the same way about Jade as I do Sam. Since Sam is what go me into Seddie, I stay away from comments about how deserving Jade. I also talk to all the shippers that way I don't get into one. I talk to Bade, Bori, Tandre, and Cabbie shippers every day.

That's a start and the conclusion is that you need to recognize what makes you ship something and then address that. With that in mind, here's a few questions:

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