User blog comment:Eric the Grape/Misconceptions about the Seddie ship and its fans/@comment-3419321-20110328181259

"Sam and Freddie hate each other."

I honestly don't understand how people can seriously still believe this.

Whether they're in love with each other or not, Sam and Freddie have shared so many friendship moments, and times when they actually got along well, that it seems blindingly obvious that they really care about each other.

"iReunite With Missy" remains the classic example of this ... However ... As much as I love Freddie, there was one thing he did in that episode that I have a hard time letting go of.

Giving up a six-month cruise around the world to help Sam was a major sacrifice, easily one of the greatest that an iCarly character has made to help a friend, and for that, Freddie deserves enormous praise.

But by doing it secretly, without letting anybody know ... Freddie may not have intended to, but he hurt Sam very deeply.

Sam and Freddie are, as Dan Schneider stated, afraid to stop playing this game of acting like they hate each other. Freddie didn't want anyone to know how much he really cared about Sam ... So he allowed Sam to continue to believe that one of her two closest friends had abandoned her in her time of need?

What kind of a solution is that?

You don't have to tell me that I'm overthinking this. I know I am.

But I just can't help it ... When I watch that episode, I am genuinely torn between loving Freddie for the sacrifice he made for Sam, and being angry at him for the selfishness of insisting on doing it without letting her know.

Anyway ... As I said, I don't understand how people can still believe that Sam and Freddie hate each other. On a somewhat related note, I have observed that many people (not necessarily on this Wiki, but on other message boards I've seen) who criticize the Sam/Freddie relationship tend to really exaggerate the violence involved.

To hear these people talk, you would think that Sam beat up Freddie in every other episode of the show. If you actually go through the four seasons so far, I think that you would find that it was actually rather rare for Sam to hit Freddie. It was much more common for their sparring to be verbal.

(Please don't misunderstand. I am not saying that verbal/emotional abuse isn't hurtful, and I'm certainly not saying that it was okay for Sam to hit Freddie during the times that she did. I'm just noting that people often tend to greatly exaggerate how frequent the physical abuse really was.)

Star Trek fans might understand where I'm coming from here. The character of Wesley Crusher on Star Trek : The Next Generation was often derided for the way he supposedly single-handedly saved the Enterprise in so many episodes of the series.

In reality, that actually only happened once. Unfortunately, once was enough, and it permanently branded the character with that reputation, even though it never happened again. Similarly, even if Sam had only hit Freddie once or twice during the entire run of the series (which, admittedly, she did more often than that), it probably would have been enough to brand their relationship as physically abusive. It's unfortunate, but that's how public perceptions sometimes work.