Talk:Seddie/@comment-5998251-20140131190356/@comment-14284535-20140131214817

Maybe it's because of who I married and whom I had the most pleasant relationships and without a traumatic break-up, but Seddie is less unpredictable than you think.

The woman I call the first love of my life was almost a female version of me. If I had made a list of characteristics I would want in an ideal wife with similar interests, personality trait, etc., she was it. Of all the women I have ever met, there is maybe one other who is closer to that ideal. (I am not married to her either.)  We got along - and still get along - famously well.

The problem? We stagnated as a couple. It is just too easy to fall into a rut and have the life seep out of your relationship because you think too much alike and don't grow. Aside from me just a mind-numbingly dull person in general, she tired of me and all the sameness (that's aside from our version of "iCan't Take It" except our Marissa Benson succeeded). We were doomed from the start.

My wife is an artsy, super-creative, fun-to-be-with, non-technical person. I am a conglomeration of the worse of Raj, Leonard, Howard, and Sheldon from "The Big Bang Theory" except that I am duller and a lot less creative. We have some interests in common, but more importantly, we have the same values and personal philosophy. We complement each other by compensating for each other's flaws.

In many ways, that's why both ships are so passionate - we get along like Creddie, but we differ like Seddie - including the arguments.