User blog comment:GiantKid/Why I don't ship Seddie :)/@comment-4061054-20110910033748

Ok, so I re-read over some of the comments and I realized some points weren't addressed. Not directly anyway. Sorry I'm late with this, but when I read your blog, I had just come home from school and I wasn't focusing in on very specific details. ;P

Yes, arguing is a sign that you can get to that other's persons core, but arguing as frequently and as often as Sam and Freddie is not healthy (even Sam and Freddie are aware of this). Of course it isn't healthy to fight to the extent of Sam and Freddie as a couple. That's the whole point of it. Development. They're going to have to work out their differences and find a compromise somewhere between their stubborn selves in order to maintain a relationship. They'll show more respect for one another. But they will still fight and that is a healthy sign in a relationship. To be able to fight.

'''Yes, they bicker and fight (in the elementary use of the word), but neither Creddie or Seddie have gotten into an 'actually argument or fight where they have gotten so angry or upset at one another that they refuse to be in the other's presence. Neither relationship has experienced a fight or argument where the only reason they make up/get back together is because they are willing to compromise because of their feelings.''' While it is true that they never reached the exact and direct point of "I'm done with you. You're dead to me", iKiss was definitely representing those kinds of feelings from Freddie. He wouldn't leave his home. He wouldn't go to school. He wouldn't even go to the iCarly rehearsal/show. And why? Because of what Sam herself did to him. Can you imagine how angry and resentful he must've felt towards her? I'm sure if she hadn't apologized, Freddie would have reached his breaking point with her. But all it took was a sincere apology from Sam in order for him to feel as though he could take on the world again (lol as cheesy as it sounds :P). If you don't want to call it compromise, let's just agree to call it an understanding. They were both able to understand the other's feelings and motivation (Sam acknowledging that Freddie does indeed have a reason to be mad at her, and Freddie acknowledging that he doesn't actually want a change in their relationship.

 If this were true he wouldn't be asking Carly for help to stop their fighting in iDateSamandFreddie. But the thing is, they aren't frenemies anymore. They stopped playing their game. And, like you said, they are aware that their constant fights aren't healthy for their relationship. That's why he wants help with the fighting. He wants to do their relationship right. He doesn't want them to quit just because they had a rough start. He wants them to be able to reach that one important aspect of a relationship: compromise. In my opinion, he enjoyed their constant fights in previous seasons because he loved the attention he received from Sam. He picked fights with her out of no where at times (ex: Idont want to fight: Sam: "You know what else I got?" Freddie: "Pimples on your butt?"). He loved pushing her buttons, capturing her attention. Same as Sam with Freddie. But now that they are a couple, fighting with her is no longer an excuse to grasp her attention. He most likely feels that fighting with her so early in their newfound relationship will cause a fearful vulnerable Sam to run away from him again.