User blog comment:Mak23686/Sophie/@comment-4169456-20120106110905

It's hard to explain my belief on things like this. I trust people but at the same time in the back of my mind I never trust them fully. If someone promises me something or say they want to do something or will do something for me I kinda of I guess play the game and go along with it but my motto is I believe it when I see it, it's in my hand, or I'm there. People have promised me many thing and alot of the time they never follow through with those promises. So I fake believe the promises, I go along and make plans and act excite (maybe deep down I am) but I leave it open ended expecting it not to happen. People might think that is a miserable way to live and I must be unhappy all the time. Truth is I am not,. by doing what I do I do not leave myself open for disappointment and thus I stay happy. Actually it makes everything that more special and exciting because I don't expect it. So when what they promise is actually in my hand or I am at the place I was told It like a present.

You shouldn't just give up on and distance yourself emotionally from people. Instead make conditions and boundaries within yourself. I don't distance myself or hold people at arm's leangth. Instead I drop my arms and bend my elbows, so I guess I hold them at a half arms length.